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With many more working dads working from home and having to cope with childcare and home-schooling too we’ve expert advice on tackling those work life challenges
Schools across the UK are now shut. And everyone that can work from home ought to be doing so. That makes for a difficult brew for working parents. Then throw into the mix the fact many companies are not ready for flexible working. Plus the constant background noise of anxiety-inducing coronavirus news stories.
It’s going to be a tough few months. So it’s all the more vital to take advice from sound sources.
Jane Sparrow is a business culture and remote working expert. Her company The Culture Builders has been helping firms in Asia to cope as coronavirus took hold there. Now she’s working with a number of UK firms too.
She’s concerned there’s a disconnect between what employers and working parents on what is going to be feasible over the coming weeks and months. “It’s absolutely essential that organisations connect with the reality for working parents and get off on the right foot with how they are going to work with and support them, and the wider teams working with them, during this time” says Jane.
“Everyone’s circumstances are different and emotions are going to be running high, as well as fuses running short. So an open, empathetic and collaborative approach organisation wide, and critically, in teams is going to be essential.”
With just 55 per cent of working parents feeling confident to discuss family-related issues with their employer, there’s a big question mark over how effectively UK businesses can navigate the necessary conversations and negotiations to create a workable situation for both the organisation and its working parents. However, with three in four mothers and 92.6% of fathers with dependent children in work in the UK, they’re a vital part of keeping Britain open for business whilst it battles Covid-19.
“Many of us will be making plans around how to best organise our days to allow us to look after our children, potentially supervise home schooling, whilst also working ourselves”, says Jane. “Others may not have families, but are going to be working with people who do, so having the right level of empathy and working out a pattern that’s going to work for everyone is going to be critical.”
Here’s Jane’s advice for working parents and businesses alike to try and make this work:
If you’ve got children begin open, honest conversations with colleagues now on what this is going to mean for you. If you don’t have children but work with people who do, talk with those individuals soon. We’ve all got to work together on making the new reality work.
Involve everyone in the team to talk about the possible times of day when everyone could be available e.g. to have a team call. This might only be for half an hour or you might have to run an A and B shift to stay connected.
If you have a partner and they are working from home also, taking shifts is a no-brainer. Becoming an early riser is also an option if your kids sleep well, as is bringing in an evening shift if they wake with the lark.
Don’t try and do everything – if you’re able to, have parts of your day where you’re absolutely focused on work, parts where perhaps you’re semi focused whilst supervising home schooling and parts where you totally disconnect and just be with the children.
If you’re able to because there’s two of you on the job at home, create boundaries to help you focus when working. If there’s just one of you and your kids are older, talk openly and agree on those boundaries. Try noise-blocking headphones and a ‘do not disturb sign’.
Make individual and team plans by the day or week (at most). Covid-19 and children are both highly unpredictable so plan too far ahead and you’ll set yourself up for failure.
That means that if you’re having a stint with the family, do that 100 per cent. When you’re working, give that your total focus (using boundaries above). You’ll feel much better for it (and get more done).
According to a study of 185 million workers, the average person is productive for two hours and 48 minutes each day. Schedule your day well and you can actually increase your output while you’re home with the kids by carving out two sets of time for deep work.
Sit down and look at what needs to get done each week, rather than each day. Break them down into quick tasks that don’t involve a lot of brainpower and longer ones that demand deeper thinking. It shortcuts deciding what’s possible to achieve, depending on the window you have.
If you work best in the morning, try and work then, accepting that in the afternoon you may not get to work as much, but you’ve made hay at your most productive time.
Working with children in the house is not going to be perfect (or even close). They’ll be interruptions, spillages (and worse) and hours will get away from you. Be kind to yourself and celebrate the small wins (and stuff you got done) each day.
The current Covid-19 situation will mean that we’re looking through a new window into each other’s homes, families and wider lives. Embrace that and use it as an opportunity to connect on a more human level – if your kids burst into a video call, let them say hi!
We’re all in this crisis together so there’s no need to hide your practical limitations and challenges – leaders being open and honest about their own working patterns (and limitations) can really set the tone for this.
‘Words create worlds’ and at times like this how we make people feel is everything. Remember the human beings behind the laptops, the challenges they might be facing and help each other out as much as you can.